Living Life to the Fullest

1 10 2009

As much as we may want to avoid it, we’re all going to be packaged up neatly and put on a shelf by other people. They may see our hair, our outfit, the car we drive or the place we live and categorize us by that. You know how it goes – “Oh, she’s a goth/poor kid/nerd,” or whatever other group they think we are. Yes, this is stupid. Yes, it’s almost always wrong. This doesn’t change the fact that people will continue doing it forever and ever.

But you know, getting put in a group isn’t always bad. It can give people a feeling that you have something in common and lead to new friends, or spark conversations with people you don’t even know. Hell, maybe you are proud of being a hippie, or a bookworm (guilty!), or a biker chick.

Embracing the inevitable categorization or not, that doesn’t make it ok to just sink into the masses and lose our individuality! So here are some do’s and don’ts.

Do: Be what you want. Dress how you want, decorate your home the way you want, and say what you believe. There’s no way to make every one in the world happy, so it’s just a bit ridiculous to spend your whole life trying, right?

Don’t: Be pushy about it. Maybe you believe in karma. That’s all well and good, but if karma is the only thing you ever talk about, that’s not so good. Sharing the things you believe in from big hair to fly fishing is admirable, but don’t let your hobbies become your entire personality.

Do: Make others envy you. I’m not saying go buy a convertible, I’m saying live your life with grace, purpose, and determination. Do things that improve the world, and even if people think your pink hair is weird, they’ll probably be at least a little inspired. You can be the smartest, funnest, coolest person in the world and if you’re still living in your mom’s basement at 45, all the good things go out the window, noticed by no one.

Don’t: Be different just for the sake of it. This never works out; it’s the life equivalent of being that drunk chick at a party who brags that she can outdrink all the guys and then projectile vomits all over the house an hour later. No one is impressed, and no one thinks she’s cool. Acting a certain way just f0r attention is so junior high.

Do: Be prepared to give in once in a while. Let’s say you’ve got a rad look going on that you adore madly, complete with dreads, cat-eye contacts and neon clothing. That’s wonderful, but you may have to tone it down a bit sometimes, say for a job. It doesn’t make you a ‘quitter’ or a hypocrite; it just makes you sensible and realistic. Nothin’ wrong with that.

Don’t: Make certain people uncomfortable. This goes a bit with the one right above. Is it really necessary to shock your old, buttoned-to-the-neck Grammy by telling her that you’ve joined a nudist colony? The general public can suck it up and deal, but I’m sure you can think of times when it’s easier on all parties involved to just stay mute. Consideration never hurt anyone.

Do: Have friends of all types. Don’t feel constricted by others’ ideas of you, or like you have to only hang out with a certain kind of person because they’re ‘your type’. Surround yourself with people who make you happy, and damn the funny looks on other’s faces! It’s your life, not theirs, and in the end it’s you who should be happy.




One response

1 10 2009

Hahaha drunk girl at party.. Eww! There’s always 1 hahaha.

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